Relationships Full Circle
How many times have you heard of pastors or missionaries who have families that are falling apart? Or non-profit workers who have children they don’t even know. Or a young bright social workers, who over-loaded with the demands of the job lose all ‘social life’ and eventually quits because of ‘burn-out.’
It’s a common theme for many of us.
Here’s the problem.
God has called us to live a life of balance, a holistic life style. You may be helping change the world, but if that comes at the cost of your family and friends, then you are not truly ‘doing justice.
1 Timothy 5:8 says “But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.” Whoa. Caring for them doesn’t mean just money, but means being there for their spiritual, mental and emotional needs as well as physical.
Doing justice, while neglecting your personal relationships is like plugging a hole in a water tower with your left hand, while slowly chiseling another hole in the tower with your right hand.
It’s a short message, but a clear one. In order to truly live justly, the ends do not justify the means. There must be sacrifices of course, but we must never neglect those God has already place in our lives for the sake of ‘something greater.’
A few things you can try this week:
- Start a family tradition you do every week together, like Sunday night movie night or game night.
- Hold a knowledge exchange, in which you gather your close friends to share a skill or something they are learning.
- Bring your kids to work/volunteer with you at least once a month.
- Be able to say ‘no’ to things (even seemingly great things) if they are going to interfere with your personal relationships and put them at risk.
- Turn off the TV and talk to your family and friends. Everyone can go on a walk around the neighborhood, or make some popcorn and sit around and talk together.